As a mom, you have so many different jobs on your plates. You juggle loving and caring for your children, keeping the house clean (sorta), and loving your husband. Slowly life becomes more and more overwhelming. You look around and see other moms who seem to have it all together, and you feel like you’re not even able to measure up. You begin to experience mom burnout.
You had such high expectations of what an amazing mother you would be, however, motherhood isn’t what you thought it would be. You’re tired of breaking up fights and doing the same thing day after day. Your days begin to run together as you struggle to be patient with your kids. You know something has to change, but what? How?
- 1. Focus on truths from the Bible
- 2. Ask for help
- 3. Find a support system
- 4. Recognize that you can only control certain things
- 5. Stay away from negative people and spaces
- 6. Simplify your life
- 7. Fix your expectations
- 8. Take care of yourself
- 9. Stay connected with your husband
- 10. Let go of what isn't important or necessary
- 11. Get a new perspective
- 12. Let your children entertain themselves
- 13. Relaxation each day
- 14. Start a gratitude journal
- 15. Limit choices
Can Stay-at-Home Moms Experience Burnout?
It’s so easy for stay-at-home moms to slip into burnout. We put so many expectations on ourselves. We look around at what others are doing and add some more things to our list of things to do. It seems like we should be doing great since we don’t have an outside job, but we’re all different and can handle only so much. While it may seem like there’s no other way to be a great mom than to do it all, there is a better way.
Depending on your personality or personal expectations, what causes you burnout may be different than what causes another to experience burnout. While it may be caused by a build-up of many little things, burnout can also be caused by one thing. Maybe your burnout is an expectation of perfection, or perhaps emotional burnout from dealing with a trying child. Whatever the cause, it will cause the same results and keep you from being what God has called you to be.
Stay-at-home mom burnout
As a stay-at-home mom, you may experience burnout for different reasons than a working mom or a special needs mom. You may feel guilty for not being able to keep up with your idea of what a good mom looks like. You may think there’s no reason you can’t keep up with all the tasks on your plate. Maybe you are feeling resentful that you’ve given up your career and now you feel less valuable. Perhaps you have lost your identity in the day-to-day tasks of running a home, or you are bored and want to explore new things.
Whatever the reason for why you’re feeling the way to do, know that there’s a way through it. As a stay-at-home mom, maybe even especially as a stay-at-home mom, it’s easy to become discouraged and overwhelmed. That said, it’s also possible to find joy and thrive in your motherhood.
Special needs mom burnout
A special needs mom is going to have unique circumstances and issues to deal with than other moms do. Besides all the regular tasks that all moms deal with, you have medicine to give, appointments and therapies to attend, extra physical care to give, and unending phone calls and paperwork to take care of. You often feel alone and isolated as your care for your special child.
Your child and the life that comes with it has become incredibly taxing on a physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual level. You are fading fast and you’re not sure what to do or how to change things. You love your child and want to give your all, but right now you’re just so tired!
What does Mom Burnout Look Like?
Mom burnout will look a bit different for each person, but there are definitely some symptoms to be on the lookout for. If you are experiencing several of these symptoms, be sure to read on for steps to take toward recovering from mom burnout.
What does the Bible say about the role of a mother? To learn more about being a godly mother, check out these 10 characteristics of a good mother according to the Bible.
Mommy burnout symptoms
Below are some mommy burnout symptoms you may experience as you become more and more overwhelmed by the tasks of motherhood. Whether you’re experiencing a few of these or all of these, there is hope for moving beyond this season of motherhood.
- Easily irritated
- Decreased motivation
- Loss of enjoyment
- Feeling overwhelmed and helpless each day
- Days blurring into one another
- No longer taking care of yourself
- Becoming increasingly forgetful
- Not really enjoying your children
- Decrease in productivity
- Not sleeping well
- Changes in physical health as you become more run down
How to Recover From Mom Burnout
Did you just realize you’re experiencing most of the above symptoms and know things have to change? What can you do to regain your joy in motherhood? Mommy burnout is real, and unfortunately, there isn’t an overnight fix. However, you can start taking small steps in the right direction.
You won’t want to try all of these at once, but choose a couple to start on today. While these aren’t necessarily in order, I certainly recommend starting with the first one for sure followed by the second. After that, choose the ones you feel will make the biggest impact on where you are right now.
1. Focus on truths from the Bible
You will need to overcome the lies that you are telling yourself about failing. That is a lie from Satan. Biblical affirmations can help with this.
2. Ask for help
Don’t feel like you have to do everything yourself and be super mom. Let your husband help. Hire a mommy’s helper. Let your friend help you clean.
3. Find a support system
Whether it’s your family, a mom group, or church group, find some others to give you encouragement and support.
4. Recognize that you can only control certain things
Try writing a list of things you can control and things outside of your control. Focus on the things you can do something about.
5. Stay away from negative people and spaces
Especially for the short term, you need to stay away from negative people and spaces. These only add stress to your life and cause more mommy burnout.
6. Simplify your life
There are so many ways to simplify your life, so be sure to pick a few areas to focus on. By simplifying, you will be able to reduce the stress in your life.
7. Fix your expectations
You are not going to be a perfect mom. None of us are, trust me! By changing your expectations, you will have less to worry about.
8. Take care of yourself
Get enough rest. Eat healthy food. Go for a walk. Get some sun. Drink more water. These are all ways to take better care of your body which will also help your mind.
9. Stay connected with your husband
It’s possible to stay connected, even in the season of littles. Try some stay-at-home date ideas.
10. Let go of what isn’t important or necessary
Prioritize the things that help you live more intentionally. We tend to hold onto expectations or take part in activities that don’t really fit in with our priorities in life. Sometimes we do things just because that’s how we learned. Let go.
11. Get a new perspective
Read some encouraging motherhood books or talk to other moms about handling the stresses of being a mom. This can be inspiring along with helping you see the worth of what you’re doing.
12. Let your children entertain themselves
You honestly don’t have to play with them every time they want you to. Yes, you do need to spend time with your children, but they also need to learn to be independent and entertain themselves.
13. Relaxation each day
By taking even a little time to relax each day, you will be able to de-stress and be better able to handle the busyness of the rest of your day. Have all your children have a quiet time or nap and enjoy a favorite beverage while you read, pray, and unwind for a bit.
14. Start a gratitude journal
Choosing to focus on what you’re thankful for will help you have a better mindset. You will begin to see the good instead of the things that stress you out. Let the negative thoughts go and focus on what is positive and good.
15. Limit choices
Keep things simple and routine as much as possible. This will limit choices and decrease the stress in your life causing mom burnout.
Mommy burnout is definitely a real thing as you’ve seen. You are not alone as you deal with this. Figure out what is causing you the most stress and work toward simplifying or creating a routine to help you minimize or avoid that stress.
Is there something you’ve found to really help you in dealing with burnout and overwhelm? Please comment below. I’d also love for you to share if burnout is something you’re dealing with or have dealt with in the past.
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I love this so much! Thank you for the encouragement. I appreciate so much, your heart for Jesus and your willingness to encourage even while you’re in the same season.