As a mom, you can always be learning and growing. If you are a new or soon-to-be new mom, you will have much more to learn. However, it’s important to realize that growth is an ongoing process. These tips for moms will be sure to help you, so let’s jump right into it!
- Be a Better Mom
- Tips for Moms
- 1. Enjoy every moment
- 2. Trust your instincts
- 3. You have two jobs
- 4. Give yourself grace
- 5. Sleep when the baby sleeps
- 6. Find community
- 7. Everything passes
- 8. When all else fails
- 9. Keep it simple
- 10. Do what works for your family
- 11. Phone a friend
- 12. Love your husband
- 13. Watch negative expectations
- 14. Pray for your children
- 15. Be consistent
- Mom Advice
Be a Better Mom
How can I improve as a mother? you may be wondering. Motherhood is a journey for sure. Some is trial and error, but much can be learned from those who have gone before you. Today I have some great tips for how you can be a better mom, even if you’re still just learning.
Tips for Moms
There are so many tips for moms out there, but these are real tips from real moms. Some of these you’ll see in many places because they’re such great tips. Many of these are great baby tips for new moms, but some tips are great to use throughout the motherhood journey. What tip would you add? Be sure to comment at the end.
1. Enjoy every moment
When everyone says that time goes by so quickly, they are right! Sometimes it seems like it wasn’t that long ago that you had a baby, and now you have a teenager! Yes, the days are long, but the years are short. Staying present in the moment will help you enjoy this time of your life.
2. Trust your instincts
No one will know your baby or your child like you know your baby or child. Trust your instincts. God gave you those instincts for a reason.
3. You have two jobs
When you have a little one, you only have two jobs: take care of your baby and take care of yourself. This is not the time to worry about a big, long to-do list. This is such a great baby tip for new moms!
4. Give yourself grace
This may sound cliche, but it’s oh-so-true! You will mess up and make mistakes. You won’t always know the best thing to do. However, ask for forgiveness, forgive yourself as well, and move on.
5. Sleep when the baby sleeps
If you are a mom, you’ve probably heard this. I’ll admit that I wasn’t great with this, but it’s still a really great tip for moms. Here’s what one mom friend had to say:
“I didn’t like it when people would tell me to sleep when the baby sleeps’ cuz I would think oh but I’ve got 50 things I can get done because the baby’s finally sleeping…but they’re right. Those 50 things can wait but the more exhausted you get it’s like operating drunk and you would never do that to your child. So take a nap. You deserve it!”
6. Find community
Community is incredibly important. We were made for community and can learn so much from others. You don’t need a large or official group, but you do need to find a group of like-minded people for encouragement and support. You will also want some people whom you feel comfortable with for getting advice from. Find those people!
7. Everything passes
Everything passes! Baby doesn’t sleep for two years? It’ll pass. Doesn’t eat? Constipation? Screaming with gas? All this stuff will for sure be over in a few years. By then you’ll miss their cute cuddles, and probably won’t even remember the annoyances.
8. When all else fails
Sometimes it seems like nothing is working! What do you do in those situations? Here’s what another mom had to say:
"If nothing else works, take them outside or put them in the water/bath. Best advice I’ve EVER received and I always pass it on whenever advice is sought."
What does the Bible say about the role of a mother? To learn more about being a godly mother, check out these 10 characteristics of a good mother according to the Bible.
9. Keep it simple
There are so many ways to simplify your life, however, this is especially helpful when you have a baby or young children. Here are some things that can help.
- Don’t commit to things outside of the home if it’s not necessary.
- If your house is not perfectly clean that’s okay. Count it a blessing you have a home, food clothes etc. It doesn’t all have to be done all the time.
- Have less stuff. It’s so much easier to care for things when there’s not as much to take care of.
- Keep meals simple. This is a season for simplicity.
10. Do what works for your family
Motherhood and parenting choices do not look the same for everyone. You are not better for making certain choices, nor are you less than because of other choices. Here’s what one mom friend had to say:
“The other people in your family do not suddenly become less important because a new baby arrives. It should not always be ‘all about the baby’ regarding parenting choices. Not saying at all that you shouldn’t do what you reasonably can to give your baby the best start, but if sleeping arrangements, breastfeeding exclusively or for a certain length of time, or anything similar come before your relationship with your husband and/or other kids, there’s a problem. In general, parents can be too caught up in pleasing others over pleasing God or doing what’s best for THEIR unique family.”
11. Phone a friend
Phone a friend!!! Some friends are trying to politely give you space, but they are eager to come alongside and help. Don’t be afraid to ask for help with errands, a meal, or maybe even taking your older children for a walk.
12. Love your husband
Be sure to love your husband well. This is one of the best things you can do for your children in the long run. Not only will they feel more secure, but they will also see what a godly marriage looks like.
13. Watch negative expectations
Have you heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy? Basically, something happens because you believe it to be so. You often unconsciously have expectations or actions that bring about the result you believe.
In the case of motherhood, so many of our beliefs and mindsets can affect our actions. We then will bring about negative outcomes . . . all because of false beliefs! For example, many talk about how difficult the teen years are. However, check out what one mom had to say:
“Teens? Those can be some of the best years…sometimes how we anticipate things helps determine the outcome. A dear sister in the Lord shared that regarding her kids as teens – before mine had reached that age. I never forgot it. It was eye-opening and a great blessing.”
14. Pray for your children
Pray and pray for your children and pray for wisdom as you raise them. Continue to do the same after they have left your home. They will continue to need your prayers.
15. Be consistent
I found consistency, especially in discipline, to be challenging. However, being consistent will pay off huge dividends in time. If you put in the work early, you will have a much better parenting experience later on.
I hope you’ve found this advice for new moms and seasoned moms beneficial. Advice and tips from seasoned moms can help you learn the easy way versus the hard way. Always be willing to learn and grow as a mom. What advice would you add? Be sure to let me know in the comments.
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